|Me and Khau|
Today is the birthday of two of my friends. One of the revelers is my friend Khau, who lives in Ohio. I'm planning to visit him next summer. Happy birthday, Khau! I have appreciated your friendship over the past 29 years. Thanks again for teaching me how to drive. I owe ya one.
The other birthday boy is Kevin
. He would have been 44 today. I still miss him terribly and think of him all the time. I still have his email address saved in my virtual address book. His Washington Post business card has not moved from its spot in my planner. I am not sure why I am unable to part with it. Maybe I am more sentimental than I thought I was. I also have a key to our old house in Springfield, Virginia. My parents have not lived there for several years. It would be funny if my key still worked. Maybe I should try it next time I'm in town. "Don't mind me! Just checking out my old room!"
I'm going to serve as a bridesmaid in my sister's wedding next month. This is my first time as a bridesmaid and, in all probability, will be my last. I'm turning into an old lady and since my friends are also getting old, weddings have become few and far between. My middle sister got married in Fiji the first time around and my baby sister and best friend each held their weddings in a local courthouse. So, opportunities have not been that plentiful. Plus, my popularity is not such that I am a likely candidate anyway. However, I like to think that Kevin would have gotten married and perhaps would have made me a bridesmaid, though. Wherever he is, I hope he knows that marriage equality has gained a lot of ground over the past few years. I can't help but think his wedding would have been fabulous.
Happy birthday, gentlemen. I am a better person for having known both of you.
Loss is always more pronounced around the anniversary and the birthday. I'm sorry for your loss.